Timing is forever off

My timing for blogging is forever off. I think of the random-est things at the most random times and it is usually when I can’t blog. It is because I am driving, putting the kids to bed then subsequently falling asleep myself or having a epiphany while I am with kids which is almost 20 hours a day.

Thanks to my babysitter (godsend) I have about 4 hours Monday to Friday excluding holidays that I can get some time for myself. Which I subsequently fill with work, physiotherapy, and all other appointments ie. hair, nails, banks, dentist, doctor and grocery shopping and cooking if I need to. In the end when I don’t need to do anything, I literally don’t. 😀 Does that make sense? I also spend some of that time to be with M. We work together cause we have businesses together. We used to travel together very often as well. Now less so. So when I don’t have the kids, I will go the the meetings and other appointments with him so that he doesn’t have to inform me of them later.

Now that I have some time, since I have to do some work urgently, I gave J her tablet. The only way get her to leave me alone and not bang on the keypad while I am working. Not even with the TV on on the kids channel does the trick. I am forcing myself to write. Forcing because I can see that my flow of thought is not there. I feel that I am incoherent and just having a verbal diarrhea. But I know that I have to try. I also get frustrated that when I do find some time, I don’t really remember anymore what I wanted to blog about. Then my mind wanders and then I find myself on Instagram, FB or Youtube, Netflix or Viki. I am going through a documentary phase. Devouring documentaries like there is no tomorrow. Mostly criminal and historical or both.

This makes me feel like when I first went back to school. After not having to write anything longer than possibly 3 sentences, I found it so difficult to even write 500 words for my first English 101 essay. I was despairing, thinking , oh no…how am I ever going to write my papers as things get harder. Thank God, all I needed was more reading and more writing. I managed to graduate so I guess I did do something right and what I wrote coherent enough for a final thesis. *peace sign*

Sigh…absolutely incoherent again. Could you get my flow of thought here? I think I want to attribute this to mommy brains. You know, the same ones as the pregnancy brains? 😛 Ok, I am just trying not to take responsibility. Just looked at the word count at the bottom and I am approaching 500. Whee!! Who would have thought this incoherent verbal diarrhea can even reach 500 words! Ah…proud mommy brains moment! 🙂

Signing off and I apologised if you came here to read about something more interesting and got this. I will try to make an effort on the next one. I update on Instagram more often. See you there!

 

Selamat Merdeka Malaysia

Malaysia is celebrating its 61st birthday today!!! Happy birthday!

The Star newspaper in Malaysia is running a campaign calling for Malaysians around the world to use this picture above and pose with it, post it on any platform and send back messages for our national day. So, I am posting it here for my part.

This year, for my birthday a few days ago, all I wanted for my birthday was a Malaysian meal. 😁 But the nearest to us was in Milan. 😅 In the end, I dragged M to watch Crazy, Rich Asians with me. Obviously, I knew he will not like the movie, he hardly watches anything, so a rom-com was pushing it. But I told him this was what I wanted for my birthday. Just him with me. He can even sleep in the cinema if he wanted to. I got my wish. 😉😆

While I was browsing through Facebook, a video from Global Malaysia Network caught my eye. This song brings me back to my school’s days. When this song first came out, we had to sing it in school and also it was a choir competition song. I have sung this song so much that the lyrics comes to mind immediately every time I hear this song. This time, while watching this video, it brought tears to my eyes.

I have posted the link here. I hope it works.

https://www.facebook.com/groups/globalmalaysian/permalink/293329541280559/

Malaysia,happy birthday! Merdeka!!

Love you!!😍

❤️💓💕💖💗💞

Been away too long….

I have been wanting to get back to blogging for such a long time that it is personally tormenting me inside.

What the real problem is this, I don’t know where to begin. So after mulling over this for forever, I have decided that is should just write this short blog post to start off and let’s see if I get my writing mojo back.

Lately, I stumbled upon a Korean documentary or talk show series (not sure if they should be called this) that features foreigners who have settled in Korea. Their lives and their concerns. Got me thinking about a few things of my experience here in Italy. Maybe I can write more about it in my next blog post. It is called “My neighbour, Charles”.

I will make a promise here now that I will post something this weekend. After all it is my birthday on Monday. 😁😉

Bak Kut Teh

Did I tell you I made some bak kut teh the other day, and it was awesome!! Missing the real deal but this is as close to it as I can get for now. It was really good too. Managed to get all the ingredients too. All hail the Asian supermarket.
I took me close to 3 days to get all the ingredients. Apart from the laziness, it is the fact that parking would be a nightmare where I first intended to go and with a baby in tow it would have been most inconvenient having to park by the roadside bundle baby up and rush in and out and put groceries in the car as quick as possible and try not to get run over whule trying as fast as possible to un-bundle baby back into her car seat. So I tried to out it off as long as possible but the craving was strong. 

In the end, my babysitter saved the day. She told me of another new shop which I also thought would be impossible to get to, but she told me a day later when I lamented on the lack of parking that this place has its own carpark area right behind. Now I only have to look for that entryway. Which I did easily thanks to her great and way to follow instructions. 

Thanks to her my craving was satisfied. Albeit after 3 days. I don’t cook often. Just wanted to share it. 😀

Night! 

Newest addition…latest happenings..

It is a little early to write about winding down 2016 but I think should get it in before December begins and I will be in the flurry of end of the year activities and will definitely not have time to write.

The last I wrote was back in March and besides having a new venture, I was carrying another bun in the oven at that time. Fast forward months, Julie joined us on the 19th Of September. So now, we are a family of four!! She is gorgeous and a total darling. Of course I am bias! She is my little girl after all. 🙂 😀


Being pregnant with her was totally different from her sister. I didn’t put on as much which is a plus! I also felt less heavy with her till the last 2 weeks. I put on 2kgs in the last 2 weeks!! The stretch marks reared its ugly head in the last 2 weeks too and it was going so well…sigh. I guess it can’t be helped. I was pregnant, after all.

She turned out to be quite a big baby, literally. Born a healthy 4.11 kg. A head full of hair like her sister. They even look alike!! Which can only mean that they will grow up and look like their dad. Sigh…oh well, the huge eyes, long eyelashes and hopefully not a flat nose like mine and great hair colour is a good trade off. ;P

I don’t remember the last time I stayed in Malaysia for so long. This time I think it felt longer only because my daughter made it feel longer. Not in a bad way but because she misses her dad so each parting when he has to go back to work is a struggle. She also has her moments where she sniffles and cries when she misses her daddy. It breaks my heart each time. 😦

We are dealing with this because I can’t fly after a certain and I need and wanted to be back in Malaysia when I give birth. I don’t have as much support in Italy as I do back here. Also, for Chinese we have a confinement period where someone is hired to help you out with the baby and recovery for a whole month to 40 days. Been back since mid July and boy, when you have 3 kids all under 3 years of age and no school all under one roof, morning till night is like a war zone at home. I do understand that children are like that but in my pregnant state and constant screaming, laughing, running, crying and fighting for about 14-16 hours a day is not something I want to repeat any time soon. Though it is great that Z has someone to play with and I really like it that she can bond and get to know her maternal grandparents and uncles, aunts and cousins better.

So each time daddy comes to visit, is a time of great joy as Z is daddy’s little girl and each parting is met with crying and screaming of “I want daddy!!” sniff!! T_T

I like that she goes to school here too. Her English has improved and the best part of it all? Her Manglish!! Cracks me up!! I enrolled her in school or rather nursery here for the few months that we are here so that I can have some sanity and some time when J comes along to bond with her and recuperate. It was also important that she has something to do and learn something new and mix with children her age and not be cooped at home the whole 5 months that we are back. I think it has benefited her. She has celebrated Deepavali and today is the early Christmas celebration in school. Since it is an international school and being in Malaysia, she got to mix and learn about other cultures as well. In Italy, she would just be celebrating Christmas, Halloween and Easter. Here, she gets to celebrate all of the above and more. If we stay on, Hari Raya, Chinese New Year, Deepavali and even Wesak day.

J is crying for my attention now, so I have got to go. Hopefully I get to update soon. Getting the hang of being a mother of 2 though I still can’t believe that I am a mother at all! Still so surreal..it has been close to 3 years and now 2 children on, it is still surreal. ok…ok…got to go. Signing off just like that.

Till the next blog post….toodeloos!

Hmm….is this an Asian thing?

So, a friend of mine shared a video from Buzzfeed on her fb page and it got me thinking. I always knew that some things are really Asian like sitting crossed legged on the floor. Or even like how the Japanese and Koreans do with their legs tucked in under them.

My funniest experience was when I took M to a typical Japanese hot springs hotel for a weekend when we were in Tokyo for work. I booked this particular hotel for its traditional Japanese tatami rooms with modern convenience and it’s traditional Japanese Kyo Seiki dining experience. We had our own lady “butler” who saw to our needs and also did a great turn down service. Anyway, as you can imagine dinner is served on our low Japanese table with cushions as seats. M struggled to stay seated with his legs outstretched so much so that he got a cramp. It was so funny to see him trying to get through dinner. Eventually he dined like a roman in ancient times. Even this he had to change his position from left to right and back again every 5 minutes or so. He was like a swinging pendulum. 😂

Then I asked other friends and found this to be true for most of them. I was told that for many, the last time they sat like that was in kindergarten! So, this I know is true for most. But squatting, I didn’t know.

Here is the video. I hope I managed to link it here. Squatting is pretty common for us. There is even a Cantonese saying that goes “mau kai” which literally means squatting on the road. Not to say that it means that specifically but more to mean like you have no where else to go so you are squatting in the roadside. Basically describing squatters. Hmm….maybe that is how the word squatter came about.

Oh…I forgot something. Even squat toilets are a sight for foreigners when they come to Asia. It is so common for us and strange to us to hear someone comment about it. Hehehehe!

So foreign friends of mine, do try it out an let me know if it is really something too difficult to do. I am now curious to see the responses to this request.

Hear from you soon! Good night!

Toodeloos!

Welcome 2016!

Hello all!! Just a short and sweet post to wish everyone a very happy New Year!! Have a blessed 2016!!

2016 is the year for us. Everything that we have been working on in 2015 will come to fruition this year.

It is going to be an exciting year!!!

Have a absurdly amazing 2016 everyone!!

Lots of love! Toodeloos!!

Hello….

I haven’t been writing for a while and I apologise. It has been a busy time for me. We have a few things in the pipeline and it has taken up most of whatever time we have for ourselves.

Anyway, what I wanted to write about is the new song from Adele. I was listening to it just yesterday in the car and it occurred to me that it is a scary song. Though whenever the song starts…”hello..” I just want to break into “is it me you’re looking for?” ala Lionel Richie. 😀 That TOTALLY revealed my age. This cracks me up each time I think about it. Sorry, inside joke.

So, as I was listening to the song the words started to sound so eerie. Like something from the movie “The others” and “Sixth Sense”. Don’t you think so? Just think about it. She has been calling and calling, there is no answer. She talks to herself and the other person seems to have moved on like the wife in “Sixth Sense”. The words “calling from the other side”….what came to mind suddenly was when we sometimes say that the other person has crossed to the other side, the person has passed away. What is scarier, is that she is calling and calling so the picture that came to mind was like the haunting in “The others”. The haunting continues. Somewhat stalk-ish don’t you think? She can also see that the person has moved on. That it doesn’t bother them anymore but doesn’t see herself being a nuisance. Kind of like “I see dead people but they don’t know that they are dead.” When this thought sprung to mind, I can never listen to this song the same way ever again. It has become a creepy song..LOL!! 😛

Just a totally random thought. Just thought I should blog about it since I have been silent for far too long now…

Guess what?

Just imagine this, it is like de’javu all over again. I wrote about the last time we were all sick. Guess what??! We are all sick AGAIN! Well now only the adults are down. Bumblebee was only sick for a day so we were very lucky. Last night, M succumbed to a fever and today he is still down. I on the hand have been sick since last Tuesday and was fullblown when I last posted. My throat still hurts, my eyes burn every time I slowly deteriorate as the day goes. Then after every medicinal intake, I get better and the cycle repeats. It has been going on for so long it seems never ending. T_T

The doctor visited today and confirmed what I told M last week. I was so sick that evening that I told him I think I definitely need antibiotics this time. True enough the doc confirmed it this morning. However since it has been about 5 days, the viral infection has turned into bacterial infection and it will take longer for me to get better. Yippee!! So happy to hear such GREAT news! Sarcasm fully intended.

He told me to wait another day and if I still have these symptoms then I should start on the course of antibiotics he recommended. Now isnt’t the great news too? So now I have to wait another day to feel better.

What better news is (and this time no sarcasm intended) that the bumblebee got a doctors prescription for some antihistamines for her allergy to mosquito bites. She has been, for lack of a better word, mutilated by these pesky mosquitoes. She gets bitten and the next day it swells up and the entire area is red sensitive. Sometimes it swells up so much it looks like it splits the skin. Poor girl! She gets bitten a lot at my in laws! 😦

We have tried everything. Mosquito repellent, citronella candles, long pants, bath…everything! Nothing really seems to work. Oh well, now we continue with the prevention and the creams and at to it the antihistamines to help the swelling and itchiness.

Got to go. Got to pick the bumblebee up from the baby sitter’s and cook dinner and etc…long night ahead. Yippee! So looking forward to it….not!

Toodeloos…to a better tomorrow.

Being sick…sucks!

Ok…so when has being sick never sucked? It is the pits when you are sick. It always feels damn good to do something when you know jolly well that you shouldn’t. Well, this is one of those thing.

I knew I was going to suffer the consequences on Tuesday when, while experiencing one of the worst heat waves in recent times sweeping over Europe, I braved the heat and went out. I couldn’t last more than a minute before I was perspiring profusely, like I just took a shower and forgot to dry my myself. That was not the problem. The problem was, in the car. I had the aircon turned up high but not the max as I wanted to cool the car but not freeze my baby in the process. This is because there is a fixed air vent to points straight to the back where the baby seat is. Whereas, since I can move the front ones I pointed 1 of the directly at myself. Straight away, I felt the droplets of perspiration freeze in mid air. I went…oh oh…I shouldn’t have it pointed directly at me. Sure die wan! *a local Malaysian/Singaporean expression for “I am going to regret this big time!”*. So I tried to turn it away from me but as soon as I did that, I felt it trickle down my face and neck instantaneously. I kid you not! It was that hot and humid. So, I did it again. This time I left it on me. Even turning it lower but I knew that I was doomed. I could feel my forehead freeze. A slight headache was forming. It didn’t have time to fester into a great head pounding pain as thankfully my destination was near.

It was over yet. After my class, I had to make the cool journey to my in law’s for dinner which was a little further away. This time I felt the pounding albeit lightly. While there, I suffered greatly in the heat. I was all sticky and wet is the word. After all, it looked like I took a bath without drying off. So, you can imagine the drive home. Brain freeze!

True to my own predictions, the first inkling of the trouble I would be manifested itself. I got a sore throat. That was Wednesday. It was still under control. Thursday dawned and…drum rolls, please…I got a splitting headache with a very inflamed throat. On top of my very special day, the baby sitter was not free that day. There I was with my body aching all over (signs of an onslaught of a fever which I kept at bay), splitting headache, scratchy in lame throat with a bouncing bumblebee of a toddler who already decide to wake up at 7.30 thanks to M’s “light feet”. She usually sleeps till 9.30 or so. 2 hours earlier in my condition was really “heaven sent”. Sarcasm intended.

I went through the day in a splitting haze…the meds that they gave me didn’t work as well as they should. By the time 5 pm rolled by, I couldn’t take it anymore. M’s day was winding down so I called him to please take the energetic bouncing toddler with him. Which thankfully he did. In the end I decided to pop 2 panadol and crawled into bed for some shut eye. By 7, they were home again and to what better way to end the day than to have your toddler down with a fever too! Yippee!!!

Between a fussy sick toddler and a calmer less splitting headache, managed to feed her, change her and get her to bed with M’s help. The fusspot wanted only mama to put her bed but 1 hour later after her “nap” she was all ready to look for her papa. 😥😥 struggling to keep her in bed and manage my own sickness….was a challenge. Lucky for her, I didn’t have much energy. In the end, M brought her back to bed after about an hour of play time with her and within the hour she was asleep. Finally.

She was fussy the whole night. Then we woke up to a fever again at 6. I was doing better but still under the weather. As I still am, now writing this. In fact I am awake because my throat hurts so bad that it is so difficult for me to sleep. Anyway, managed to get her back to bed and thankfully she slept a little more till about 9. Just in time for her Masha and the Bear. Her favourite! I will write about that another day.

The day went by well. I had the babysitter that day. She took the bumblebee at 3. I had a few appointments I couldn’t miss but I cancelled my class. I didn’t feel I could concentrate. Luckily I did. I deteriorated as the day wore on.

The day ended in an even better way courtesy of the mosquitoes at my in laws. They left 3 new bite marks on the bumblebee. Great! We will have inflamed allergic reactions to deal with tomorrow though we have put medicine on them. Now, wasn’t that a great day? The best!

Being sick, sucks! I need to see the doc tomorrow. I think I need antibiotics and the bumblebee needs some antihistamines.

I hear thunder outside. They predicted rain. I hope it does. 2 weeks of nearly 40 degrees and high humidity has killed me. Did I ever tell you I hate summers? I do…I detest them. When is it ending?..

I should try to sleep and dream of rainy days….

Dang! My incessant coughing, even with a pillow covering my face has just woken the bumblebee. Great!

I should go…night! Toodeloos! To A cooler Saturday!