So, I was watching this reality series on Real Time called “2 Abito, Una Sposa” basically means 2 dresses, 1 bride like my title suggest. All this in Italian of course as I was in the office as they now show Real Time on the satellite channels and it was on as background sound. I couldn’t budge from where I was because Z was napping and she has a knack for waking up the moment I get up to do anything. Even if I am not touching her any way. I find that this happens more often if we are not alone. Any other person or sharp noise will wake her from her slumber and if I am not there to put her back to bed immediately, then we can forget about the rest of nap time. It will be officially over and play time is in da’ house!

I digress. I don’t understand why some mothers would insist on their children wearing their wedding dresses? I saw it a few times on the other wedding dress reality series which I don’t know their original titles. I only know their Italian titles and I couldn’t be bothered to Google them now. Z is snoring next to me and it makes me sleepy too. 😛

You will understand when you become a mum. At least that is what my mum said. I am a mother and I understand why some mothers think that way. Wait, ok, I lied. Even before becoming a mother I understood why but I don’t get it how they cannot understand their daughters? Did I confuse you there? I understood but still don’t understand?

Let me explain. I think it is great if the daughter wanted to wear the dress herself but I don’t think it should be forced onto her by playing the emotional blackmail game. It is not fair! Hey, you had your fun choosing your own dress! Had fun playing dress up and trying on all different dresses. Why can’t she have the same fun and freedom of choice? Unless, the dress has been passed down for generations and ALL the ladies wore it on their wedding day, then maybe, ONLY maybe. The choice is still hers.

Secondly, does the dress even fit her personality or body type? I mean, there are dresses that will look nice on some and really, really hideous on another. Imagine very nice low “v” neckline dress on a slim person then imagine the very same dress on someone with a double D chest fitting into that very same dress. I think it would look so inappropriate especially for a wedding but I could be wrong and some find this really nice. To each, its own.

Then, there is the fashion to think about. What could be “in” in the 80s is way out of place for now. Most find the 80s a fashion disaster era and I concur. Somethings you can get away with but a wedding dress of the 80s? hmm… >_<

The thing I like about this show is this. It combines the 2. It gives the bride a choice. It says 2 dress because you have a choice of 2 dresses. You bring your mum’s dress. Wear it to show the stylist and seamstress (I can’t think of a more glamorous name for her) and tell them what you like or don’t like about the dress and what you are looking for in a dress and the budget you have. Then the stylist will go in search of dresses for you and the seamstress will transform your mum’s dress into your vision while still trying to keep some of mum’s dress and stay in budget. You can pretty much forget about getting your dresses back intact mums! Poor mums!

Then from the stylist’s choice you choose one, of course after trying them on. Then they reveal the seamstress’ creation. After that, the choice has to be made between the 2. The seamstress is usually very creative and does an amazing job transforming mum’s dress. I have been wow-ed many times.

Conclusion is, if you have a very persistent mum, you should join this show and maybe they will be able to help you get the dress of you dreams. I pity the mums only because since they loved their wedding dresses so much, it must be hard for them at the end of it cause they will not get their dress back as it was. Worse, if the daughter decides against it and goes for the new one. oh! poor mummies!! I guess, that is the risk that they have to take when going on this show and insisting that their daughter wear their dress. 😀 😀

I am so mean… 😛

Update: Found out the American title for this series. “Something borrowed, Something new”.